Why Powerful Women Intimidate Me….and How to Stop Feeling Intimidated

I’ve noticed I feel intimidated by powerful women…

…When I forget that I’m one of them.

I have two sons and then a girl. My daughter recently turned two and she’s always been the little girl who can hold her own against two enthusiastic brothers.

She has always been a little powerhouse.

I first noticed the intensity of her power when I was 8 weeks pregnant with her and, after a highly stressful day, started to bleed. Bleeding has always preceded miscarriages for me, so I was sure I had lost this baby.

But after a week of spotting, I was still waiting for the full release of miscarriage. So I started to entertain the possibility that this baby wasn’t lost after all.

In a visit with my midwife, we found a healthy baby still kicking around in my womb, continuing to grow despite my spotting.

And here’s the scene I envisioned as I thought about that baby:

Mom starts bleeding and pregnancy starts to end.

The little spirit involved with this pregnancy marches right up to the Heavenly Parents and tells them what’s gonna happen. Not asking permission, but telling them that this is when she has decided to come to earth and she is not waiting any more cycles! She is coming now, so please and thank you for putting her back and giving her a successful journey onto earth.

We’re talking powerhouse baby from conception to now!

And wanna hear a secret? Sometimes she really intimidates me!

Doesn’t that sound silly? A mom being intimidated by her baby girl? And not in the overwhelmed by the physical demands of a baby kind of way (although I’ve definitely been through that), but in the, wow you’re a powerhouse and I feel sorta small around you kind of way.

(Side note, I would love for you to hit reply and let me know I’m not the only one if you can relate to this!!!)

Here is what I have realized:

I have a pattern of trying to not take up too much space or use too many resources or get in the way of what other people want or need. When I’m in this place of making myself small, almost making myself disappear, my daughter’s big, bold, confident energy creates a stunning contrast and I feel overwhelmed by her big big energy.

But there are times when I step into the power of who I truly am—days when I’m happily taking up space and joyfully being me. Those are the days I delight in my daughter’s big energy, because I no longer feel threatened by it.

She can be a tiny powerhouse. And I can, too. And don’t you think that’s probably what she wants anyway? There is definitely room for two powerhouse women in this family.

But what about the world? How many powerful women can the world handle?

(50 points for whoever can answer first!)

This must be what I’m grappling with when I compare myself to powerful women and see myself as coming up short.

It feels like their powerful presence outshines my stuttering light and I get all awkward and insecure and judgy and aloof and overly critical. and i stay small.

Anyone else?

But here’s the truth:

This world is begging for every woman to step into her power and live life big, bold, and beautiful. And messy. And loud. And quiet. And fast. And soft. And slow. And different. and whatever and whoever you are in your authenticity of the moment.

That’s exactly who the world needs.

Crazy, right? The world wants us. It wants me. And it wants you. And we don’t need any special armor or tools or lipstick or shoes. Because our power is already there, sometimes hiding, sometimes feeling broken, sometimes barely visible, but it’s there. In you. Right. Now.

Let’s let that sink in for a minute.

Has it sinked? Sank? Sunked? Good.

Now this remembering and stepping into power is basically the point of an intuitive healing session.

Because so many of us have been trained to live beneath the full power of who we really are.

But we’re not really happy there. Because part of us knows that under our insecurities and our familiar patterns and our negative self talk and our self-sabotaging behaviors is a freakin’ incredible goddess who doesn’t exist anywhere else in the universe!

Sometimes we need a little help remembering that she exists and finding her again.

Intuitive Healing Sessions provide an opportunity to connect with your divine self, to identify and release old energies that block your power, and to uncover the well of wisdom and love that waits beneath the pain and the fears.

As Sam K shared,

“Talking with Ruth and learning the healing exercises really helped me tap into myself and what I have been holding in without recognizing it.”

It’s time for us all to step further into our power and to get comfortable being our powerful selves.

Do you feel the increasing tension that comes from staying in old patterns of powerlessness? Are you ready to start laying that tension aside?

Schedule your session here to reconnect with the intimidating power of who you are!