Feeling Safe in the Midst of Transition

I recently spent two whirlwind days in a brand new city looking for a place to live. 

The first morning there, I took a little walk through the neighborhood. As I sat on some fall leaves near a little stream, it hit me how unnerving it feels to step into life without a home base.

It feels really freaky to…

…plan a 2,000+ mile move to an unfamiliar city

…not know where we’ll live when we get there

…not have all the financial pieces in place

…not know who my new friends will be or if we’ll be able to find community

…enter that stage where half my things are packed and I’m not sure where anything is

…not know what childcare will look like in this new stage or if I’ll have the time and energy to keep growing my business.

So much unknown and so much out of my control.

There’s a lot we can take for granted when our lives have a pattern and our stuff generally stays in the same place.

Moving….or transitions of any kind….a new baby, a relationship ending/beginning, a loss/change in employment, physical/mental health crises….can disrupt our patterns and turn our brains on turbo-blast, thinking we have to keep the pieces together while everything around us falls into chaos. 

These transitions scream unpredictability.

And who feels threatened by unpredictability? Our friend, the amygdala, whose job it is to protect us and keep us safe. Unpredictability is full of risk! And risk isn’t safe. AND unpredictability is where all life’s magic is stored. It’s where possibilities and opportunities abound. It’s where life surprises us with just how incredible we can be.

But here’s the key:

WE MANIFEST AT THE SPEED OF SAFETY.

When we don’t feel safe, we dig in our heels, throw up walls, and try to slow life down. We close ourselves to new possibilities, relationships, and changes. We don’t allow the magic to flow.

But when we teach our bodies that we are safe in the present moment, we are safe in our dreams, we are safe to take chances, and we are safe to invite new thoughts, patterns, and experiences, we open the flow of divine magic and *kaboom* miracles pour through.

In other words, if we want to speed up the process of receiving what we want, we can notice what part of us doesn’t feel safe with things actually changing and then help our bodies learn to feel safe, independent of outer circumstances or relationships.

I’ve been doing a lot of this lately :) 

Here are four tools to help you return to a state of inner safety so you allow yourself to get more from this magical life:

1. Empty Your Mind Meditation

   Take 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes–as much as you can handle!–and just empty your mind.

   I like to imagine a little ball rolling around my brain bumping out any thoughts it comes in contact with until my brain is empty. Then I let the ball roll in smaller and smaller circles (like in a spiral wishing well) until it falls down my neck and spine and brings me to rest in my heart.

   Simple but so effective.

   Why? Because our natural state of being is one of safety and love. We disconnect from this natural state when we worry, rush, push, or numb. But when we empty those stressed, negative, self-abusive thoughts from our minds, we make space for the natural flow of safety and love.

2. Go for a walk

   Moving our bodies brings us back into the present, into our bodies, and out of our worry-prone heads.

   I’ve learned that my body loves gentle, consistent movement, like a long walk. Plus, interacting with nature on my walks helps raise my energy back into alignment with the energy of nature and the energy of God.

3. Intuitive Dance!

   This year I’ve rediscovered my inner dancer. I love to close the door, turn on whatever music feels good in the moment, and intuitively move my body. There’s no right or wrong here. Just do what feels good for your body until the world starts feeling safe again.

4. Creation Breathing

   Inhale: Starting at the base of your pelvis, contract and bring the energy up through your abdomen, up your throat, and to the top of your head. Hold the energy at the top of your head for several seconds then,

   Exhale: Release everything and relax.

   Repeat until you feel you have moved out of survival and into creation.

Try one of these tools today and tell me how it goes! I’d love to hear what plugging into safety opens up for you.

It’s safe to try. It’s safe to take chances. It’s safe to try new things. It’s safe to open up to relationships and allow others to love you.

If you feel that yearning for safety but don’t know how to get there…

Check out my new program, The Creative Goddess Experience, and schedule your free Goddess Discovery Call so we can start bringing you home to yourself.

The Creative Goddess Experience is designed to guide you through healing your past, becoming your #1 advocate, dreaming into a new future, and living in the now.

It is the Ultimate Mama Coaching Program combined with Powerful Healing Methods to help you find yourself in the chaos and Reimagine Motherhood the way you are meant to create it.

I can’t wait to see what you create.